Jack Dawson… Penniless artist who wins a ticket onto Titanic in 1912, attends a first class dinner, develops a taste for the finer things in life, pockets the Heart of the Ocean, survives the sinking, pawns the diamond, spends the following ten years building his wealth and in 1922 moves to West Egg as Jay Gatsby… Millionaire with a shady past and fear of swimming pools.
omg yes so much yes!!!!!
some (possibly) important shit.: crackerhell: i honestly wish more people would use the term... -
i honestly wish more people would use the term heteroflexible
for example people who have never actually been in or seriously pursued (outside of that one time when you were 13) a queer relationship because being hetero is so much easier
like yes we know being hetero is much…
I thought about this a lot this fall when I started dating a hetero cisman as a queer ciswoman (polysexual is probs the best term.) I felt like my queer identity was being erased because I’m femme and was dating someone who very clearly is hetero & cis & a dude.
A dear friend reminded me that any relationship I’m in is QUEER because I’m QUEER, and that is really comforting for me, especially because I don’t read as queer and I live in a very heterocentric place.
Anyway, that’s part of my story, if it’s helpful to anyone figuring this shit out.
can you please explain to me, or have your friend explain to me
How you as a cis woman dating a hetero cis man equals a queer relationship?
Genuinely, I wanna know. That makes you queer, in a hetero relationship.
That doesn’t make you less queer, it doesn’t erase your queer identity. But it also doesn’t make your relationship queer.
Yeah, totally. For me, it makes sense to see it this way: I’m queer. I bring queerness to all of my relationships (family, romance, friendship, professional, etc). Queer to me is bigger than the gender and sexual identities of the people snogging each other: it’s a systematic & critical self examination, pledge, and brave ongoing act to engage with people (and especially partners) as human beings. In the process, we weed out heteronormativity, sexism, ascribed roles, etc.
I do reject the idea that hetero cis people engaged in a “feminist” relationship are in a queer relationship, much in the way that I think straight cis women cannot own Femme Identity, even though from the outside, these things might read similarly. I celebrate healthy/feminist relationships between people of all genders and sexualities, and I celebrate femininity in people of all genders and sexualities, but these things can be different from queer and femme because (among other things) these ideas are rooted in a departure from oppression.
I don’t know if I’ve put my thoughts out there very clearly. It’s a really personal and ongoing thing for me, and something I think about every day. My (now ex) boyfriend and I talked about the queer label for our relationship, and I was actually surprised when he totally agreed with me and said that that was how he had thought of our relationship too, in that being with me, as a queer person, is different than being with all of the other (hetero and cis) women he’s dated before me.
I guess I never felt like I “checked my queerness at the door” when I was with my last partner, if that makes sense.
Identity is hard, dude. And (duh) super personal. It’s a really hard process of maintaining (empowering) definitions and boundaries and not policing them at the exclusion of the legitimate experiences of other people in those groups.
In which Velma is articulate as shit.
Not a god damn thing.
Ang Lee must be kicking himself for not thinking of making Life of Pi an all-white affair with Freddie Highmore as its lead. Damn, and if only Slumdog Millionaire had been made with Josh Hutcherson in place of Dev Patel and Stanley Tucci in place of Anil Kapoor. Why stop there? Because Abrams obviously also wanted to s**t on one of the greatest roles ever played by a Latino actor. So why don’t we remake West Side Story with an all-white cast? And I can’t wait to see Chris Hemsworth play Zorro!”
“Nichelle Nichols’ Uhura was defined by her competence at her job, by the fact that she was the communications officer of the Federation’s flagship. Zoe Saldana’s Uhura is defined by her relationship to Spock. A franchise that even in the chauvinistic ’60s used to shatter the Bechdel test all the time in its depiction of Uhura now fails to meet it in this film made four decades later. How is this progress?
STAR TREK SPOLERZ
Some gems from this nerd rage about Star Trek: Into Darkness.
Even though the day was cancelled due to sequestration, a 5-year-old showed up to school because he was hungry.
And there are more devastating effects sequester budget cuts have had on kids and schools.
Sequestration is real people. The more you know.